The truth about self-harm…

Hello everyone, welcome back! I know its been a while but I have been experiencing some of my own thoughts and today, I decided lets talk about the truth of self-harm.

There is so much negative stigma behind self-harm and it really upsets me. Some of the comments you hear about self-harmers are awful; “if you just cut a bit deeper, you would finally finish the job”, “you just do it for attention, you are so pathetic”, “eww, those marks/scars on you are disgusting, you are so stupid”, “I would never do that, you are going to have those on your arms for the rest of your life now”. Not everyone self-harms to kill themselves, actually it is a very small minority. Self-harm is an emotional release that nobody understands unless they experience it themselves. Self-harmers DO NOT always do it for attention, those who do show that they are struggling and by showing it off and getting attention for it is just a cry for help. People who self-harm tend to do it as a way out of their mental pain, by causing physical harm it allows them to forget about everything else for a little while. We are not stupid, we struggle and yeah, we wish we had different ways to cope but we dont, this is how we do it. Lastly, you dont need to remind us that the scars will always be there because we know this and get down about it every day but our scars show our battles and our the wars we have one. We should not be made to feel ashamed.

You have probably guessed by now that I have struggled with self-harm (I never used to be able to say that, but now I can). Everybody goes through some struggles and everyone will have their own way of coping with the bad things in life, maybe some just aren’t as conventional.

I believe that no matter how long it has been since someone has self harmed or how long it has been since they have felt like doing it, they will never be free or ‘cured’ from it. It can hit back at any time and this isn’t something to be ashamed of. Life is full of set backs but what make them setbacks a victory is how we managed to get through.

If you are someone who struggles with self-harm, speak out and get the help that you need and deserve. There are 100s of charities that are here to support, they will be here for you. Never be ashamed of who you are, you are all winners in my eyes. Remember, it is okay not to be okay.

I hope you all enjoyed and I will see you the next time. X

Did I make the right decision?

Hello everyone and welcome to the blog! So firstly I wanted to say thank you for being here on the first official blog post of ‘itsokaynottobeokay’. I know that my bio says im a mental health blogger, and I will be but today I wanted to write about something that I have been feeling and thinking recently!

A question that I seem to be asking myself a lot lately is ‘Did I really make the right decision?’ What I mean by that question is, did I make the right decision about what I’m doing right now? I have officially doubted myself!

All through my life, I have never been 100% certain on what I really want to do. I always changed my mind at least every 2 months. I wanted to be a teacher, a doctor, a firefighter, a TV presenter, an actress, a singer, a teacher again, an author, and a journalist. My mind has always changed on what I wanted to do with my future and I am pretty sure there was a few things that I missed off on that list!

I always wanted to go to Oxford University, that was my dream. I knew that I would never be smart enough to reach that so I picked a university that didn’t have as high entry requirements! When I thought that was where I wanted to go, I still didn’t know what path I wanted to take and what I wanted to study. There was so many options on some amazing courses I could have chosen but I still didn’t have a clue! Did I want to go into the childcare sector and use my health and social skills or did I want to pursue what I always thought was my dream, to become a writer.

I have always enjoyed writing, its always been a passion of mine. Journaling, writing my thoughts on certain subjects, I was once so interested in the history of Salem that I wrote a whole report on it! My point is, no matter what sort of writing it entailed, I really loved it.

So what happened? Why didn’t I take a creative writing course in uni? Or, a multimedia journalism course? I dont know. I doubted if I could handle the stress and demands of university life, I mean sixth form was struggle enough! I put an end to that dream and started looking for a job. This is where I came across what I am doing now, I am an apprentice TA. I can’t say that I love it but I can’t say I hate it! I do my coursework set by my tutor and do my best to support the kids I work with, its rewarding but I dont feel the passion that I do when writing!

I want to keep going with my apprenticeship and see out the whole two years and be fully qualified to see what other doors that opens up for me but I also want to pursue writing, I love it, I feel great passion when I finish a piece.

So, did I make the right choice for me or am I still floating around discovering what my career thoughts are and what they want to be?

I hope that you enjoyed my post and found it a little helpful to hear another persons opinion! I am sorry that it took so long to get a post out! See you all next time!

Hello World!

Hello everybody!

Welcome to itsokaynottobeokay. This is my first blog post and I am excited to start this journey and share it with you.

I want to be a supportive blogger, somebody you can relate to and somebody you can always turn to. The things that I will be blogging about are real life issues that need to be addressed, they will include information, examples and my opinion on the situation.

I want to say that to keep myself 100% comfortable with this blog then I will be keeping it anonymous, by doing this I will feel 100% myself and my views won’t be affected because I will not have any fear of being judged!

I know that this is a really short introduction but I anted to keep it short and sweet before we get into the heavyhearted posts!

Thank you and I hope to see you in my next post!

xxxx